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I told my husband I wanted a divorce. He said that I was being mean. I didn't tell him over a cup of coffee at breakfast. He has been gone 2 1/2 years. He walked out and left me with a teenager.
He wants to be single but says I am mean if I said that I don't want to be married anymore. I don't believe I need to go 1500 mile away just to be with him. I have been there and have done that before. It hasn't worked. When he wants to leave, he just drives away. He has lost 2 houses in 2 different states. Right now I have a small apartment that I can afford and have lived here for 2 years next month. The teen only has a couple of months of high school left and he graduates and is trying to go to college.
I don't want to be married right now. That might sound strange but it is because I found out he is on dating websites looking for a "Christian that loves going to church". To answer any questions, no I didn't go to church with him. He would call me names all week and expect me to go with him on Sunday. He even put a dating website on his Facebook page.
For the past few months he has sent the landlord rent money. I don't even know how he found out who the landlord was because I never told him. We are older. He is taking care of his sister now. That should be her son's job. I think the rent money has something to do with it. I don't want him controlling my life any more. I feel like just moving away and making sure that it isn't in a small town. I have taken care of kids and grandkids for over 40 years. I want to do something that I would love to do. I just want to pack the truck and leave. That is another thing where he has control. The truck is in only his name. He took my truck which was a lot older but paid for when he left and then left it somewhere because I wouldn't mail him the title to it. I hope I have made sense. What would you do?

You are not being mean, you are being realistic that your marriage has been abandoned by your husband and adultery is a real possibility (referring to the dating site thing - married men aren't free to date single women). But to deal with all this mess, you need someone to properly guide you: your pastor. Make an appointment this coming week.

If you don't have a pastor, you need one. They have the responsibilities of caring for our souls, and your soul needs caring for. So find your favorite flavor of church and go talk to the pastor. Look the church over, and if it's decent, join it. We are commanded to not forsake the assembling of ourselves together.

God bless you, dear, like He promises He will. Lean on Him, do things His way, and let Him make things happen as you go through the steps. I'm sorry your husband is being so disobedient to God and you. (((Hugs)))