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I feel really overwhelmed at the moment. I've just had a baby a little less than 3 months ago and not working at the moment. We're really struggling with money and I feel anxious about it almost all the time. I used to be the bigger income earner out of me and my husband and he is wanting me to go back to work and him to stay home and look after the baby. I feel a lot of pressure to find work again quickly. I've only just started looking for work from last week and had my first company interview yesterday, which went pretty bad. I also had an online technical test for another job which I did yesterday evening in the midst of baby crying and the household a noisy mess (so that didn't go well either). I don't feel as sharp as I used to prior to the baby and my memory and technical skills are really poor now. I'm so worried I won't be able to find work because I can't be convincing enough in interviews.
I haven't been to church for many months. I tell myself that this is because it is difficult to during the late months of pregnancy and when having a newborn baby but it's also because my husband has decided that he's no longer a Christian and I just don't have the will these days to motivate myself. My husband has said that we'll go to church this weekend (with the baby) because he can see how miserable I am so I think that is nice of him. I try to remind myself that whether I go to church or not, God is with me wherever I am and whatever I'm doing but I'm just finding it so hard today.

Is your husband's pressure to find work new? Did you both agree you would go back to work after you had the baby?

Have you spoken with your doctor about possible post partem depression?

What is your field? Where were you working before you had your baby?

Go to church whether your husband does or not, go speak to the pastor about all of these issues.
-reba.

You sound isolated.

Is there a support group you can call on inside or outside of the church? Don't forget that helping others makes them feel good, so don't see it as an imposition.

My wife always says that the 12 months maternal leave is the wrong length because babies are most attached between 9 and 18 months. That might be useful information as make your plans. It is good to get your routines sorted out so that you start to feel that you are functioning at the same level as before.

Money worries can get on top of you. I have had them myself and sympathise.

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John

My soul looks back in wonder at how I got over

We who believe in freedom cannot rest until it comes

I think you've gotten some good advice, so far.

I just wanted to say that I am praying for YOU and your situation. You're not in this alone, dear.

((( hugs )))

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PROUD MILITARY WIFE ❤ PLEASE KEEP MY WONDERFUL DH IN YOUR PRAYERS

I'd just like to say thank you for all your kind words and advice. Molly, your praying must have worked because I actually feel better -emotionally - now than I was a few hours ago.

The baby was unplanned, we had just been married for about two months when he was conceived. I've always liked working better than my husband and I enjoy the people interaction in a job. Because the baby came a few years earlier than I expected, we discussed me going back to work once I was physically well after the childbirth and my husband to be the 'house-husband' to look after any kids. But I feel as if my husband is wanting it to happen too soon. I am happy for him to stay at home once I have worked confirmed but he's already informed his work that he will be taking parental leave in two weeks time - which makes me feel like I need to secure a job by then! I've got another interview next Monday and I just don't think it's realistic that I can be confirmed with a job the week after. The fact that I performed so poorly in my first interview and then on the technical test made me feel scared that I'm never going to be able to find work again!

I worked as a financial technical assistant before the baby but I haven't been doing it for about six months now. I had been at my old workplace for so long that I decided to resign when I got too big and I had been having difficulties with a colleague anyway so it was a huge stress relief when I finally left my last workplace.

I do plan on going to church myself even if my husband doesn't want to anymore but I was thinking when the baby was a little older, like around 9 months or so, or even maybe when he can start walking (what age is that around??). We've discussed that I will be bringing our son up as a Christian and even though my husband isn't terribly happy about it, he knows that I am determined on this.

Well, I will KEEP praying for you!

(God's bigger than all of this, He really is!)

Come hang out with us over in the Women's Chat Thread (in the Women's Folder) ... we'd love to have you join us.

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PROUD MILITARY WIFE ❤ PLEASE KEEP MY WONDERFUL DH IN YOUR PRAYERS

I am praying for you.

It was not wise of your husband to tell work he was taking paternal leave. He should not have done that as you did not discuss that before he made that decision. I would confront him and see if there is a way to change it at his work/delay it?

I do suggest going to church before it's been 9 months.. you need fellowship consistently, especially if there are problems.

Hugs!
-reba.

I am praying for you today!

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PROUD MILITARY WIFE ❤ PLEASE KEEP MY WONDERFUL DH IN YOUR PRAYERS