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Ok i dont know where to start.. Well i have been dating a christan girl for a year and a half and she didnt goto church when i met her but since before christmas we have been going to church and i have never went to church in my life... but we have been struggling with out relationship i have been doing bible studies with the pastor and she has been doing them with the pastors wife but right now we are on a break and im not sure what it is.. i accept jesus as my savior on march 2nd and i think she is having a hard time getting back into it we argue lots and i just dont understand if it is me.. and what should i do i really do want to spend the rest of my life with her and her family is a very amazing christan family which i love being around but i have been saying lots of rude comments to her because i just hurt right now without her and i think i may have lost her..

Hi Jason,

Welcome to the forums! Much more importantly, welcome to the family of God! I am sorry that you are hurting right now. It's impossible for me to really understand what's going on in your situation. Apparently you don't really understand it yourself. It may be that your relationship with your girlfriend will be healed, and maybe not. Right now I think the important thing is that you trust the Lord with all of your life and surrender everything to him, including your desire to spend your life with a certain person. It's possible that God has other plans for you... and for her. If he does, you must be willing to accept that. If it is his will for the two of you to be together, God will work it out in his timing. But for now, you need to release her into God's hand and trust in his love, his wisdom, and his purposes. And as you do so, pray that God's will may be done in your life and in hers.

In Christ,
Cale

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Jason, praise God that you have accepted Christ as your Savior. I think, however, it may be time to slow down the relationship with your girlfriend and let your relationship to your Lord grow and mature. Let your girlfriend also grow in her relationship to Christ. When you are infatuated with a new girlfriend, hormones do an awful lot of thinking in place of the brain. You both need to prove to yourselves and to each other that the relationship you have begun with Jesus was not just an artificial one, intended to convince the other that you are a Christian. Apologize to her for your rude words, suggest that you need time to grow in your newfound faith. Focus on getting to know God and His word. Continue in the Bible study with your pastor. Discuss your feelings with him and look to his counsel. If God is directing you in the relationship to this young lady, the relationship will survive. If it does not survive a time of cooling off, well, maybe it wasn't God's woman for you anyway.

Regards.

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Wow thanks alot of that adive, i know i have to just focus on my self and my relationship with god.. i can tell the devil is trying to tell me else wise but i am fighting him away he just keeps trying to bring my past back it feels but i am trying to stay strong and just focus on the future.. thanks alot for the advice once again