There not even be an appearance/hint of anything being done sinfully, as per the Bible!
IF it is as you stated, than would encourage the elder to get a seperate apartment now, or else step down!
He has another house bought, that's the thing. I said just live there, I don't understand why he just won't.
This is why I said I wouldn't personally support him while his life is this way, cause in my mind it encourages the thought that he's fine and all is well.
We were actually quite close but the closer I we got to the Lord was the more I couldn't honestly support him in his role and his lifestyle anymore because God to me must be honoured especially after such a calling, so I distanced myself from him in that we no longer hang out outside of church hours or spend time on the phone to one another, but I don't malice him. Theres this thing called NLP. While away from church he got a masters in this subject and just discomforted me with it because he told me its mechanics of it and its powerful. I just want God to be honoured as the Lord of All.
God showed me in a vision sometime ago. God is a loving God, a compassionate God and a caring God but the Lord stamped out these words "But He is an absolute God" Absolute in His ways, Absolute in His righteousness. He's just in all His ways therefore He just cannot tolerate sin. The things that many take lethargically as God understands, are actually intolerable to Him.