The Bible NETWork ~ Impacting the World for Christ one post at a time!

First things first. I'm a newbie to this forum, so I hope it turns out as well as it looks.

Alright, long story short. I went to a Christian college for a year and met this girl. She always claimed that she never wanted to be married just in casual conversations with friends and such. We were pretty decent friends, but left it at that. I transferred to another college a little over an hour away a year later. A year went by with no real communication other than I'd see her when I'd visit every now and then. The next summer she began praying that God would bring the right guy into her life and we started talking a lot and eventually ended up dating at the end of the summer and all throughout first semester. When we were dating she explained how she believed God brought us together and stuff He'd told her and all that. We were kinda stupid and got the physical train going a bit faster than we should have, so we decided to take a break before things got too out of hand. At the beginning of this semester, the guilt from that really set in for her and she said she wasn't even sure if she ever wanted to get married again. We haven't talked much since then because I believe God is using this to teach us both stuff and I don't want to mess that up or freak her out. She's also taking 18 hours and graduating college and I'm a full-time engineering student working 30+ hours a week, so time is also a bit of an issue. I honestly don't know for sure where she currently stands regarding if she likes me again or to get married again or not. I've talked with her mom about it a lot and both her mom and I strongly believe that God has told us both that we're the right ones for each other. We've also compared what we believe God has told each of us with each other and it lines up perfectly. Imagine that. My deductive reasoning says that if God's told her, me, and her mom that He brought us together, He's going to bring us back together again when the time is right. I very much hope that it's at the end of this semester, but I don't really know. Lately, I think God's been telling me to be patient for her. My question is how do you define eagerness as opposed to impatience? I am definitely eager to get back together and have a wonderful Godly relationship as soon as possible, but at what point does eagerness become impatience?

Gen. 29:20

this verse always staggered me @ the depths of his patience & love -- eager is normal, human stuff -- but i read this & what THAT -- it'll happen but it prolly won't be easy -- so roll w/ it best you can

& don't try & manipulate the timeline..!

lol, funny story about that. A couple days ago when I felt God was telling me some stuff about timing, patience, and all that, one of my friends had one of those "Grab the closest book, go to this page, read that sentence" things for his facebook status. I decided to do it and this came up. "So Jacob agreed to work another 7 years." was the sentence (after he worked the first 7 and found himself with Leah). At first I kinda almost panicked because...well....I don't want to wait another 7 years. Then it occurred to me that that point was exactly half way through the whole ordeal to get Rachel, so perhaps that meant we were half way through the ordeal to get back together at that point (yes, I do remember exactly what day we decided to take a break and exactly what day I read that ). Or I could just be over-analyzing everything again. Either way, I think one of the worst things I could do right now is to manipulate the time line, so that's out of the question. I'm just working at defining impatience against eagerness.

To me it seems like impatience would be trying to take things into my own hands and start bugging her about it. Eagerness would be praying and waiting for God to do His thing without getting in the middle of it. Sound about right to you guys?

yes

i'd say the verse & timing are direct Answers from God! -- no need to over analyze as it's CLEAR -- no such thing as coincidence w/ God

btw -- GL w/ the engr -- am an ol' EE myself

Thanks for the reassurance on that. There's a difference between "know" and KNOW. I still wonder about the timing though. If it in indeed half way over with, if it's a couple years down the road, if I just need to chill out and until it happens, or if it's even my place to know. I hope it's my place to know because it's a lot easier to reach a goal when you actually know what that goal is.